“Why don’t I do the things I want to do?”
It’s a question that every person faces, if not once, repeatedly throughout one’s lifetime.
And it’s a good question. Why don’t we do the things we want to?
Why won’t we reach for our goals when we know they’re achievable?
Why do we stumble and break the healthy habits we’ve built for ourselves when we can feel how much they help us?
The answer isn’t that we lack willpower.
It isn’t because we’re lazy or unintelligent or unambitious.
No.
It’s because we formed core beliefs during childhood in order to survive, and now those beliefs are screaming at us to stop because according to those beliefs, it’s not safe to change the way things are.
Our system says, “We’ve survived this long because we’ve used these strategies to cope. It’s dangerous to change them.”
Of course, as children, we don’t have access to the many options available to us as adults. We now know there are healthier ways to live, get our life needs met, and thrive. But until we face those core beliefs, we’ll be stuck in an endless loop, unable to change and climb to new heights.
Now you may be wondering, “What are these core beliefs? What do the most common self limiting beliefs look like? How do I find them?”
It’s important to know that you’re in good company. In fact, everyone has at least one limiting belief, and there are several of them that are the most common.
In this article, we’ll provide a limiting beliefs list to show you what some of yours might be, and also provide examples of how these beliefs can form during childhood.
The Top 10 Most Common Self Limiting Beliefs List
- I am not enough
- I am not good enough
- I am not worthy
- It’s not safe to be my true self
- I am a bad person
- I can’t trust myself
- I can’t do it
- There’s something wrong with me
- Nobody likes me
- I am unlovable
How are these beliefs formed?
As children, the world revolves around us.
It’s a natural and necessary stage in the development of a healthy ego. It’s important because we’re trying to learn the necessary life skills to become functioning adults. However, that means when traumatic or unexplainable events happen, or our needs aren’t met, we make it mean something about ourselves, others, or the world.
Because everything revolves around us, we are the cause of everything bad that happens. It’s always our fault, consciously or unconsciously.
We create a story to make our experience “make sense”. That story lives within us eternally as a belief.
Some stories are positive, “Mom appreciated and loved me when I told the truth! It’s good to tell the truth.”
Others are negative, “I really need Dad to stay, but he left. Dad doesn’t love me. I am not enough. I am not worthy. I am unlovable.”
Why “I am not enough” is the most common self limiting belief
“I am not enough”, or some variation with the same general meaning, is by far the most common self limiting belief among us.
Why?
Because nearly any traumatic or negative event can have that conclusion drawn from it.
“There’s nothing I could do to keep dad from leaving. That means I’m not enough.”
“Mom yells at me no matter how I behave. That means I’m not enough.”
“No matter how hard I practice, I still fail math. That means I’m not enough.”
And because our child’s eye doesn’t have the development and experience to understand that the traumatic events were NOT caused by them but by a multitude of reasons (such as, mom isn’t happy because she’s stressed at work, dad left because he’s a very wounded person with issues he hasn’t addressed, etc), we create the story… “ I am not enough.”
Many of the beliefs listed have the same fundamental ties – they come down to self-worth, love, and safety. These are three of the most fundamental needs that a human has.
As children, it’s easy to draw the conclusion that if a need isn’t being met, it’s our fault. We create stories in order to cope with the stressors of our environment. It’s a way to compensate for the trauma and get the needs met in whatever way possible.
As an adult, it’s important to go back to these places and draw new, truer conclusions about what really happened. By freeing yourself from the old toxic stories and lies we unintentionally created about ourselves, we open up space for truth to emerge within.
Why beliefs’ wording and spelling matter
Your Belief System was created largely by you in your own words.
Different people resonate with different spellings/wordings of different common self limiting beliefs, even if the essential meaning is the same.
Some people resonate with “I am not enough”, but not “I am not good enough”.
Others resonate with “I can’t trust myself” while others resonate with “I can’t trust anyone”.
Words and phrases carry different meanings for different individuals.
Nobody’s two experiences are the exact same.
Your Belief System is just as unique as your fingerprint.
To discover your own limiting beliefs list, you must first learn how you spelled and worded them in your mind.
How do I undo these limiting beliefs?
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